Like all social endeavors, they're best enjoyed with people that you like; that you like to spend time with. And so, when you walk into a bar you risk, of course, walking into a drunken blowhard who wants to punch you in the face. Well, the same is sort of true with online multiplayer- I mean, every once and awhile you're going to end up with someone who you really would rather not spend time with. So yes, when you engage in games it's a social activity, you risk not having a fun social experience, but its absolutely like being a member of a bowling league or playing golf with your buddies on the weekends, where what you're really doing is trying to link together with people you like to spend time with. And the thing you're actually doing, unless you're super competitive, playing a game, if you enjoy spending time with your friends, you might as well be bowling or playing cards or doing whatever it is- the actual activity is less important than the interaction between the people.